New Year, new career?

If your current mantra is New Year, New Career, you’ll love my series of Career Conversations starting on Monday 6 January 2020.

When you’re job hunting or thinking about getting started with the job search, it’s really helpful to hear the real stories and challenges that other women dealt with.

It’s good to know you’re not the only one with fears, worries and doubts.

It’s even better to know that you CAN deal with those challenges.

My Career Conversations series is a sample of what to expect when you join the Career Club online membership community.

To join the Career Conversations (for free), come and join us in the Career Conversations Facebook group.

p.s. who else do you know who’s job hunting or thinking about it? please do share the news about my live 2020 Career Conversations

The job I always wanted

Never let go of your dreams.

On Saturday 16 November I was elected as NCT President. It’s a role I’ve been thinking about and dreaming about for many years.

It finally came true. It wasn’t a straight line from “Yes I want this role” to “Yes I have this role“. There have been many twists and turns. I first ran in 2015 and was unsuccessful that year.

However I truly believed I could be a good President. And I absolutely believe in this charity and what we do.

My husband has joked for years that I’m NCT to my bones.

Which goes to prove that when you really want something, keep going.

Stay strong.

Be determined.

Brush yourself down and pick yourself up when things don’t go the way you want the first, second or third time ….

Take on board the learnings then try, try, and try again.

The 10 Day LinkedIn Kickstart

Sign up to join the Priority waitlist <<HERE>>.

The LinkedIn Kickstart is for you if you want to

  • create a powerful LinkedIn profile that gets you noticed
  • make a bigger impact at work and take your career to the next level
  • understand what employers or potential clients expect to see on your profile
  • develop your expert authority to showcase your experience and achievements
  • build strong relationships and network without being pushy
  • enhance your personal and professional brand

Every day for 10 days, you will get an email with a short video and a worksheet with a bite-sized task for the day (plus a ‘when you’ve got more time‘ extension task too).

You’ll get invited to a private Facebook group where you can share your thoughts, ask questions, get feedback and be inspired.

In the meantime I’ll add you to The Confidence Guide which is published weekly, jam-packed with tips and tricks for ambitious women who want clarity and confidence. And we’ll talk again when we get started.

Click <<HERE>> if you want to get noticed on LinkedIn today!

If you know already that you want more personalised help than I can offer in a group programme, or you want to get started right away, a one-to-one personalised LinkedIn Profile review could be what you’re looking for.

Ready to get started?  Join the priority list today so you don’t miss a thing when the next live round starts.

I can’t wait to share my knowledge and insights with you and hopefully you’ll learn to love LinkedIn as much as I do.

Take a proper break – it’s good for your career

Loved the final article that appeared in City AM on Friday 10 February.

Taking a proper break is essential – for your health and for your business performance.

It’s not about how long and how often you are in the office. It’s about the quality of the work that you do when you are there.

You might also be interested in the video blog that I recorded with Dr Christian Jessen and Geoff Rolls on the same topic of taking a break.

Watch it HERE.

Leadership Confidence

As some of you know, I am a big believer in the power of masterminds and peer groups. When you bring like-minded women together, magic happens and the result is always bigger than the sum of the parts. I’ve seen it happen time and time again.

That’s why I’m putting together a 6 month Leadership Confidence programme. I have seen THE perfect venue for the retreat bit by the sea. It’s gorgeous – amazing food, the rooms are incredible, it has an underground grotto & spa pool. Free sherry & gin in your room! (That’s the bit that sold me!!)

I’m so excited and I just want to launch it NOW and not wait for all the fancy pants marketing pieces. It will be limited to an absolute max 8 women. If you’re interested (or you somebody who might be), let’s talk so you don’t miss out on the 40% off special deal I’m offering to the first 4 who sign up.

Let’s talk if this sounds like something that will benefit you. Book your call here.

In last week’s post, I shared with you important information that every parent needs to know: how we parent our children affects their emotional life and behaviour.

I explained how being an emotionally responsive parent helps your child to establish effective stress-regulating systems to take them through to adulthood. Knowing this, you adopt your style of parenting so that you nurture your child’s brain and body to manage stress in adult life.

When we respond to our children in certain ways, this gives your child’s brain opportunities to establish the pathways needed so that your child can:

  • manage their emotions
  • think rationally undress pressure
  • self-calm without recourse to angry outbursts or anxiety attacks. In later life, the adult who is not able to self-calm may resort to alcohol, smoking or drugs.

More modern research and knowledge provides the evidence to confirm that our parenting styles can affect a child’s

  • curiosity and drive
  • ability to explore and embrace life
  • creativity
  • develop deep and lasting friendships

And don’t we all want this for our child?

Our parenting has a major impact on a child’s emotional life on a long-term basis because how you raise and respond to your child during the brain’s developing years determines which part of the brain is activated most.  Let me try to explain, in layman’s terms, some of the neuroscience behind this. The caveat being that I am not a neuroscientist myself.

The human brain is made up of distinct parts:

  • the brain stem or core reptilian brain
  • the limbic system or mammalian or emotional brain
  • the midbrain
  • the cortex or higher human brain, the thinking logical brain

The brain parts are connected by a network of nerves which all have their own special function.

During the brain’s development in the first five years of life, millions of brain connections are formed, unformed and reformed. Our experiences literally ‘sculpt’ our brains. This ‘sculpting’ activity is known to slow down around the age of 7.  The child’s brain development is affected by how you listen, how you play, how you cuddle, how you comfort, how you respond when are angry etc. As you respond to your child, the brain connections are made – the wiring is formed. When a baby is born, the more primitive reptilian brain is in control. The higher human brain (the thinking brain) is undeveloped at birth which is why the young child can be so easily overwhelmed by emotions and primitive responses. This is not your child ‘being naughty’ or ‘manipulating’ you. This is your child trying to cope. When a child experiences feelings such as fear, sadness or anger, this activates the lower part of the brain.

This means that the developing brain in the early years is very vulnerable to stress. However when the young child is in a stressful situation, if the parent is emotionally responsive, inside the brain, the relevant neural pathways develop so that the child is able to manage stressful situations. The more often this happens, the stronger the connections and the stress-regulating systems become more effective.


The Confident Mother conference starts in January

I’m getting very excited now about the amazing speakers who are agreeing to be interviewed for The Confident Mother online conference in January.

We are going to be covering a wide range of topics from your employment rights when you are pregnant or on maternity leave to ideas for starting your own business; how to boost your productivity to helping your children to manage their emotions.

I’d love you to join me – you can sign up here.

Fill your Christmas stocking

Before you get too caught up in the nativity plays and carol services, put yourself first. Have you thought about what you really want for Christmas? What would you love in your Christmas stocking? Many of the mums I talk to would love time to themselves, an hour with a good book or a long soak in a relaxing bath. What about you?

Fill up your own stocking first this Christmas because self-love and nurturing is more than ok, it’s essential. We learn that through the book over and over. And while you’re at it, fill the Christmas stocking with love for a friend too.

Here’s my Christmas offer for you – until 20 December, I am offering 3 copies for the price of 2 on The Confident Mother book. Buy today – keep one for you and you have two to give away as gifts to a friend, a sister, a cousin.



Do you want to reshape your experience as a woman and a mother?

Just before half-term, I spent two days in the New Forest, a mini retreat from day-to-day life to focus ON my business (rather than busy IN my business). It was amazing.

Being away from my normal environment brought fresh inspiration and clarity on how I do my best work with women. And how women get the best value and the best experience working with me. I know that for many women who are stuck, lost, overwhelmed … AND want to go back to work or start a business, they LOVE the ongoing support and accountability on my longer programmes.

If you are stuck on something or feel like you are going round in circles, I really enourage you to take your own mini retreat.  Get out of your normal environment – for an hour or two, a day or even overnight. It will give you the space and time that you need to really focus on what you want and how to get it. Simply being in a different environment opens your mind and boost your creativity.

My retreat most certainly boosted my creativity and my energy to reshape The Confident Mother Experience. I want it to provide mums the help, support and accountability that they really need; 3 months is not enough to get you back into work or to change career or launch a business.  However I am also taking on board the advice I give to all my clients – focusing on one thing at a time, so I won’t launch the new programme until January, after the conference.

To be sure I am making the right changes, I am going to invite 5 lucky mums to join a beta of The Confident Mother Experience in November at half price.

If this sounds like it could be the opportunity you’ve been waiting for, and you (or a mum you know), is planning to go back to work, change career or start a new business, then join me on Wednesday evening for a free online training that will give you a kickstart. You can register here.

Did you plan to go back to work in September when the kids went back to school? Has life passed you by? Don’t beat yourself up – you still have time to get focussed and take action. Yes only, six weeks until the school holidays start. However if you have clarity and focus, you can get a LOT done in six weeks.

I’d love to see you sign up for the free training on Wednesday.

I’m moving – will you come with me?

… yes it’s true, I’m moving. Well my blog is moving. And I’m really excited.

When I spent time in the New Forest last week to focus ON my business, I found fresh clarity and inspiration. I am rebranding everything, including my blog, from The Confidence Guide to The Confident Mother.

You probably know that The Confident Mother conference and book have been my main focus this past 12 months.

So why am I only now changing the business name? Well quite honestly, and somewhat ironically, I needed the clarity to have the confidence to make the change.

I know this is the same for the women I work with. When you are really clear on what it is you want, you find the confidence to just go and do it. Change and transition can be scary. But when you know WHAT you want, it’s easy to get started.

I’ve realised that my role is not just to guide women through building confidence, it’s about helping you to be The Confident Mother, celebrating and loving life as a woman and as a mother. It’s about helping you to find that clarity; to create that feeling of confidence; to feel powerful and to tease out the issues that are blocking progress.

The rebranding is happening in stages … I’ve updated the Facebook page. My blog moved today (thank you Helen); the group for mums in business has been renamed; from next week, all my emails and newsletters will come from The Confident Mother. No doubt, there’ll be bits that I’ve missed.

Otherwise it’s no change. I’m doing the same work, with the same focus, I have just got really clear on how I do it.

If you have subscribed to my blog, come on over to its new home here and re-subscribe